The power of Resilience
Why are some people better at coping with setbacks than others? After a lot of thought, I came to the conclusion that those who bounce back after taking a hit all share a common ability. Resilience.
I’m not sure if one was born resilient or if it can be learned afterwards but I firmly believe that the more challenging your life was in your earliest years the more resilience you build. I believe that those who were dealt a bad hand from the start have a higher level of resilience because they developed proper coping techniques that allow them to effectively navigate around or through life's obstacles. It is a misconception that those who faced adversity will struggle for the rest of their lives.
It will come down to how you percept those events.
In my honest opinion it is only the minority who can't rise after falling. We place those events, grow from it and carry on with our lives. Each time becoming a little bit stronger, a little bit wiser and a little bit more compassionate for those around us.
I was a kid likely to have a poor life outcome but I did not succumb, I surmounted. I got to know my talents and strengths, my weaknesses as well. I had a lot of ups and downs but I grew. I like to think of myself as a palm tree. I bend but it do not break. I see the same strength in my sister, who shares my past and a few extra setbacks later on in her life. We both carry our past in our hearts. We both are scarred. But those imperfections are what makes us beautiful and wise. And eventually stronger and more resilient.
Most people don't dwell on the past. They adapt well over time. Reslience is ordinary, not extraordinary.
So let’s get back to where this article started. Resilience.
It makes us think in solutions rather than in roadblocks. It makes us creative by finding an alternative road in life when the main road is full of obstacles. It makes us able to place ourselves in someone else’s shoes.
It allows us to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever.
Some of the qualities resilient people have are:
A positive attitude -optimism
Control over their emotions, the ability to place them.
Seeing failure as valuable feedback
Being able to cope with stressful situations.
Creativity and an entrepreneurial mindset.
The ability to reinvent themselves and to adapt to changing situations.
Being resilient is one of the greatest assets you can have in today’s changing world. And it is one of the key soft skills one should look at when employing. If you want to build the company of tomorrow you will need resilient people who can quickly adapt to changing situations, easily place themselves in your stakeholders' shoes and find solutions to overcome threats.